Unsuccessful internet dating
It's like gambling: The hope of winning is so strong and motivating, you don't even realize you're losing most of the time.4.
When they did, second dates were rare and thirds were almost unheard of.
During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.
I hadn't even noticed these feelings before because they were overridden by the hope that I'd get that rare good message.
But once dating stopped being such a big part of my life and I wasn't virtually surrounded by people seeking a partner, I began to realize a few years is not a long time at all.
It just felt long because I wasn't comfortable being single—and I wasn't comfortable being single because I just hadn't allowed myself to be.
It takes a lot of self-control not to obsess After I went on my first date during my break, I realized why I took the break in the first place: Because when I like someone, I get a little intense. " and "OMG he doesn't like me." And then there's the other kind of obsessive thinking: "Where will our next date be? I look back on some of my former relationships and think, "Why did I put up with that?